Family Connection Moments

One of the most common pieces of feedback we receive from parents when we give suggestions for family connection is, “I don’t know if we have time for that.” This is absolutely fair—kids, parents, and families are busier than ever. Between practices and games, dance and piano recitals, school, work events, extended family needs, and simply having dinner, it can feel almost impossible to find time to just be together and bond as a family.

Here’s some good news: connection doesn’t have to be fancy or time-consuming. Small moments add up over time to increase feelings of closeness and being a meaningful part of something bigger. Keeping that in mind, here are some ideas for moments of family connection.

The drive to and from school

Take advantage of your commutes! Even a five-minute drive can be full of opportunity. Have everyone say what they're looking forward to or were grateful for that day. Play a story-building game where each person adds one sentence at a time (or hard mode: one word at a time!). Take turns asking fun "Would You Rather?" questions.

The walk into or out of school

Transition times can often feel rushed, but walking side-by-side can actually be less intimidating than face-to-face, and can help kids and teens feel more open. This is a great opportunity to ask a curious question: “What was the longest part of your day?” or "What is something that made you smile?" You could also create a goodbye handshake or make up a silly phrase to always say before parting.

Just before bedtime

They’re calm (hopefully), tucked in and snuggly, and are releasing the last of the day’s emotions. Share a high and low (or rose and thorn, sunshine and cloud, whatever you like!). Read or tell a short story, say prayers if that is important in your family, or just spend time snuggling and talking.

While doing other activities like making dinner or cleaning

Connection doesn't have to stop just because chores need to be done. While making dinner, folding laundry, or tidying up the living room, share jokes, sing or dance along to music, have a dance-off, or have a jar of conversation starters nearby to pull from. Ordinary tasks go faster when you're having fun doing them together.

As parents, we often think we have to “go big or go home,” or that we need an hour of uninterrupted time in order to connect. While the lengthier activities do matter, the repeated, small moments of your attuned presence add up to something big—your family feeling close and kids feeling safe, supported, and part of something. Those foundations last a lifetime.